Hi,
I hope this reply will help ease a little of the worry for you.
I suffered a ruptured AVM in 1976 (!) when I was 7 years old, I had an emergency crainiotomy and the AVM was clipped and left in place. I am now 55.
I remember the severe headache and a few things from being in hospital but I had no realisation of the risk at the time. The operation was successful and there was no ongoing neurological impact at all, I was even back at school without missing a day - somehow I timed it so badly that it was all during my summer holidays
Of course my parents were aware of some potential scary outcomes and it was a terrible time for my family but all was fine - and this was nearly 50 years ago!
Last year, I had a further haemorrhage, as a further AVM had grown from the original as I became an adult (had probably been there a long time). I was told that this can happen in some cases and is something they would scan for nowadays when a child is over 18 - just wasn’t an option when I was that age.
I had elective surgery in Sept 2024, and am now recovering from my 2nd craniotomy. This time I had the experience as a parent to two 9 year olds. They were worried and asked if the surgery was 100% safe, I avoided that answer a little by telling them I would ask that question in my pre-op. Obviously, no medical professional can say any operation is 100% safe but the answer I got was almost as comforting: “we do a lot of crainotomies, they are a routine operation in neurosurgery” and I relayed that to the kids which provided some reassurance to them and also meant I did not promise something I could not guarantee.
I would not be worried about a crainiotomy versus embolisation or gamma knife, although it seems a lot more intrusive, it is a well practiced operation and it is an immediate and permanent solution.
Just as it was for my parents previously, it was far worse for my wife and siblings this time around than it was for me. Waiting for news on the surgery outcome is awful - even if a crainiotomy these days is pretty low risk.
I hope everything goes welll, and your son recovers quickly.
One difference between the two surgeries is that the new AVM growth this time was clipped and entirely removed, whereas my original AVM was just clipped and left in place. I don’t know but suspect the removal is a better option today.