More bad news from my end. My wife had an affair and we are in the process of going through a divorce. Through some discussions with my neurologist and my neuropsych, they assume that she no longer wanted to be my caretaker for any more short term recoveries from my seizures. It has been a year! If any of you have been through a similar situation, I could really use the advice and support.
Good morning Nich. My heart is sick right now. I hated reading this news. So glad we were able to meet you last year and know that you will get through this. Hang in there as you know we ALL are here for you as your family.
It so sad that the vows you and your wife shared no longer meant anything to her. Taking care of each other in sickness and in health isn’t something you just over look after the day you say I DO. And of course to be forever faithful. I was lucky enough to have been single at the time my AVM was found. I know 100% that my ex would’ve had issues doing the same.
Hang on, there will be better days forward.
Hey there. I’ve been through a similar experience. When I was diagnosed (my husband was actually the one who rushed me to the hospital) he was extremely supportive. A month went by and he just became angrier and began putting me down and calling me names due to the fact that I have no short term memory and my recovery has been slow. It was a heartbreaking situation. The breaking point for me however was when he told me HE was going to move and that I’d need to “find” a place to live… this man who I vowed through sickness and in health til death do us part. I moved back with my mom who has been great, so for now my advice is to find a support system; people who love you and will be there for you regardless. Just from your reaching out for advice lets me know that you’re a caring person.
Please do not blame yourself for her actions… I did this in the beginning. I found fault in myself and in my AVM… I placed blame everywhere but on my “husband” is a “big boy” and knows exactly what he is doing. It’s not easy, just the day to day things but please continue to reach out here on this site or with people you trust. We don’t ask for these AVM’s. They find us… for what reasons I do not know. But please know that you are better than this situation that you have been faced with. LOVE YOU. TAKE CARE OF YOU. Please.
Many prayers coming your way from me.
Jessica
My heart goes out to all of you going through all of this ,My daughter went through a hard time with her ex-husband where she had to do everything including work, take care of the house and watch the kids,when all he could do is stress her out and stay drunk all the time.They have been apart for 6 years,She found a great guy that has stood beside her through all of her sickness they have been together for 5 going on 6 years,and yes i believe you can still find happiness just don’t give up,She’s out there somewhere,If you need to talk we are all here for you.
Teresa
I’m sorry to hear your bad news. That’s a bummer - to say the least. I never been married but, I know what it"s like to live with seizures. I live alone. For me, my friends & my family are there for me. I do believe you have some other people that will be there for you too. Sometimes you just need to ask,…they will be there.
I’m so sorry that your wife will not stand by you. I had a brain bleed on 12/24/2007. I’m 60 years old and was divorced long before my brain bleed, but would not be surprises if the same thing happened to me. My daughter still helps me tho. Do you have anyone who helps you? If you need someone to talk to, I’ll be there for you!
Hi, I hope you are feeling better.
I’m praying for you.
Peace,
Ameenah
Thanks for all the kind words. I am learning to live life single. I have my children who are my world. I am in a happy place in my life despite my setbacks and this situation. It has been a tough year, one that I never expected. However, I hope that there is someone out there that is willing to be by my side and be the partner in life that I am looking for and need.
I’m glad you have the children !!!
I’m sure you will find someone, make sure you look in the right places and pick her for the
right reasons 
Peace,
Ameenah