Hey all,
So, I have a confession to make. I was originally going to write this in a very “cute” 3rd person kind of a way. But then I thought, screw it. You all are going to know it’s me anyway.
We are about three weeks past a very stressful month where we were all on edge - I think I’ve told you before, so I’m not going to waste your time again. I actually felt like it went pretty well in terms of me being able to “do” what a dad does when he helps two of his remaining 3 kids move out of the house.
But since then, it has been nasty. Moods are very easily jacked up (mainly mine), My head has felt really off kilter, balance is off, vision is worse, hearing isn’t good - just take pretty much everything and on a scale of 1 to 10, raise them anywhere from 1 to 3 points higher. For instance, I hadn’t fallen for months if not close to a year. I’ve fallen once and barely avoided it a couple of additional times.
My wife and I were discussing it this morning and I know the hearing problems are a big frustration for here. She also believes that it is “always possible” to improve mental health. I, on the other hand, view mental health quite a bit differently. I believe it is possible to improve, to a point, and once you that point, then it’s going to be hard if not impossible to get improvement unless you are looking at years or decades of time.
I believe that my cognitive struggles are because of damage to nerves, not because of an external hit - i.e. a concussion. I think that means that I’m going to be able improve some, but I’ll hit a limit.
Questions for the collective wisdom:
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Have any of you had a medical professional say, “Uh, Mr. TJ, I’m sorry but we aren’t going to be able to _________ And have that be an emotional, mental injury, not a broken bone? A couple of them have said that about certain physical issues, but nothing about the emotional/cognitive part. I’d love to hear your story if you can share it.
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Do any of you feel that the cognitive challenges that you had did a complete 180 degree turn around and they are no longer issues? How many of you is it sort of like AA and that - you can get over some of it and you can manage the rest of it, but it will never go away this side of heaven. Sort of, well, sort of like my AVM?
My wife is of the mindset that I need some more advanced trauma therapists - more that Randy - to “get over these issues (and I am not over them - it’s a daily battle). I don’t want to feel like I am tearing the scab again and starting all over.
What to do, what to do…
I would love to hear your thoughts,
Thanks for reading and thanks for being here. I believe, more than ever, that the quiet ones in the group are crucial to the group.
And on topic, cheers!
TJ