I have an 8cm grade 8 brain AVM in the left side of my head. Inoperable and untreatable in any way. From here in my country to Barrow, they all agree. No embo, radiation or gamma knife are even an option.
I called her Annie. “Annie came here one day, she spread roots. Took everything I loved and chained me.”
But you know what… Is not that bad. My neuro, a really skilled man on the topic, said Annie is pretty stable. A really nice drainage, and he told me bigger malformations are less prone to bleed. He also told me that in all his years of dealing with AVMs, he never saw any case like mine bled. Except for this old guy, but oc, he was a heavy smoker.
And yeah, it kinda makes sense. I started having symptoms at age 6, and even after that, Annie resisted lots of sports clubs, cruel PE teachers, panic attacks, tons and tons of heavy alcohol and an addiction to substances I won’t mention here. All like a champion.
Now… I was discharged by my neuro. “You are not gonna bleed unless you go back to extreme sports or drugs. So chill out. Just forget about it and live your life.”
Just forget about it… It was so simple and at the same time fascinating. But what can I say, he is right. There is nothing to do and sooner or later she is gonna kill me so… why not go back to normal. I’m tired of this paranoia I have all the time, I’m tired of feeling like a frustrated version of myself. NO. I’m gonna run in the mornings. I’m gonna work out and tattoo all my feelings on my gains. I’m gonna go out to concerts and dance to the tones of old goth songs. I’m gonna live the open sex life I’d always loved and make love with everyone I want in every way I want. And for the most part, I’ll be the woman I was always denied and enjoy every single second of it.
I didn’t come to this world to have my only life taken away cuz “I was born with a delicate brain”. Even if I only live for five more years or less. It’s better than being in my 40s and thinking of all the things I missed for always being afraid. And then die from a stroke while doing it, alone on my sofa. I gotta say I feel pretty lucky my AVM is this fair, and yes I’m afraid of dying or ending severely disabled. But the money for my rehab is not gonna fall from the sky so I’m gonna go out there and work harder than ever and assure myself a life I feel fulfilled about, Even if my job kills me, at least I’m enjoying it.
At the end of the day, this thing gave me more than I could have before I met her. She gave me responsibility, a sense of health and future, discipline, and the ability of being grateful for every moment I’m alive. From the good ones to the bad ones.
So thank you Annie. I’d beat your a$$ out if you weren’t inside my body. But still, thank you :3