@MikeM
What to say? What to say to help you?!
These are the questions that we all wrestle with: it’s very difficult, isn’t it?
So… I don’t want to sway you one way or the other: you’re the person who basically has to decide which set of risks you’re happiest with (this is what it boils down to: there’s risk in either action and there’s risk in inaction).
But what can I say that I hope might help?
I’m sure there’ll be a bunch of people who have had a temporal lobe AVM and either surgery or embolisation or gamma knife. Equally, I know there are people here with aphasia and people with some peripheral vision loss. They need to chip in because I seem to have got away Scot-free so far. My understanding of these things is that there is a risk you’ll come away from the op with some undesired effects, not that it is guaranteed.
If the docs are offering you either embolisation or surgery suggests that either is an option for you. Each doctor tends to have their own skillset and their own preference, so I don’t think the diversity of opinion is necessarily something to worry about. If they are giving reasoned arguments for one versus the other (and it isn’t to do with being only their skillset) then you need to understand the reasons. If there are no good reasons either way, then I think it comes down to your preference.
I was only offered embolisation for my dural AV fistula in my right occipital but if there had been a choice between surgery and embolisation, I know that for me, I’d have been happier with embolisation. But that is to do with my own comfort etc with the different procedures.
If you need a third opinion, one option could be to consult remotely with one of the major neurosurgery practices in the US, like Mayo or Barrow or Stanford. These offer a remote consult on reports and images that you submit through their portal for something of the order of $100-$400, not a prohibitively expensive thing to do. They might sway it one way or the other for you, or they may underline that either is a good option.
When daring to go for an intervention of either kind, somehow you need to balance that in your mind with the fact that doing nothing is an option but it is also not a risk-free option.
Are the dizziness effects getting more pronounced over time? This could be a reason to do something.
When I was at the same stage as you, I initially thought to myself, “When the risks of not doing something outweigh the risk of doing something, that’s the point at which to act.” but as I waited for my operation, my DAVF felt like it was developing quite quickly: I got dizzier and dizzier month by month and I quickly decided I needed action. Indeed, I hoped that by the time I got to the front of the queue, an embolisation would still be the best option to sort me out. If your AVM is busy changing, think more about action maybe; if it is stable perhaps it is ok to watch and wait for a while. I did feel that the waiting for the risks to swap places was basically kicking the can down the road but the urgency with which mine seemed to be changing became my deciding factor.
I hope me rambling like this might stir some extra thoughts that help you along the way. I might have one or two other thoughts but they aren’t walking to the front of my mind at the moment.
We are with you: we know how difficult this choice is.
Best wishes,
Richard