Hi Sophie,
thanks for the details and great to see that you’re on top of the statistics. I was very much the same
….Like you say there are different risks to balance, and I totally get that you don’t want the 3-4 year wait. So let me tell you my experience. I was also under Mr Radtz at Sheffield, and was quoted similar odds, but was non responsive having waited five years. However, my AVM was very high flow, and they think I may be in the 10% of people with radiological resistant tissue. So possibly just unlucky. Initially I was very keen on surgery or embolisation as a certain ‘fix’, but quite honestly the risks for me were very high, they said 40% chance of significant visual impairment either way. Whereas gamma knife was 5%. My AVM was very deep and presented a challenging surgical target, and high risk for embolisation due to flow rates. So gamma knife was the only realistic option as I had not heard of Mr Chapot back then (2019). And in hindsight I am still glad I tried it. I was diagnosed due to a bleed, from which I lost some lower left peripheral vision, no big deal. The bleed was unpleasant and took some time to recover from but I was basically fully intact. So a bleed isn’t necessarily the end of the world, although it can be. I think around 15% are fatal, and another 30% leave a mark. I recently was told of someone whose had five bleeds and is ok. So that’s one thing to consider. The gamma knife risk you’re been quoted is significantly lower than the embolisation risk, but you also carry a ~1% annual risk of bleeding until obliteration (higher if you’ve had prior bleeding). A bleed may never happen, be years away and may be harmless, but it’s an open ended risk. But surgery / embolisation risk is all up front, today. I did have my AVM successfully embolised by Mr Chapot in a single session. It was a text book surgery, and they were all very pleased, however, I woke up with total hemianopia on my left side (right sided AVM) . They expected this to resolve when swelling subsided but it has not, and is the same today. I also had a complication from the catheter and have a significant narrowing of my right femoral artery which prevents me from running. I can’t drive due to the visual field deficit, and although I’ve adjusted amazingly well and live normally, it is something that I live with every day. So, do I regret the operation? No, because I’ve eliminated the risk of the AVM bleeding again, and I knew that was an open ended risk, and mine already bled twice. Once at 20 years old (undiagnosed at the time - but I’ve only had that headache twice) and again at 40. It helps me be at peace with my visual deficit knowing that I tried every low risk option and didn’t rush into anything. I’m not saying that you shouldn’t go for curative embolisation at all!! I am just saying that my perspective changed throughout the process. I became relaxed about the bleeding risk even though it had happened to me before, and the five years ‘waiting’ were not spent waiting, but living life to the full, with my full vision. I had a great few years. At the end of it more difficult decisions and then surgery one year ago. Mr Chapot and the hospital in Essen were excellent throughout, and will take great care of you, but they cannot be sure whether you will have side effects as my case shows. They didn’t expect serious issues, but they can’t say for certain and we were all surprised to find such a significant loss of vision without any recovery. The risk of embolisation is that you are making an abrupt change to the blood flow which can cause swelling and venous congestion, potentially damaging brain tissue. Gamma knife is a gradual process giving the brain time to adjust, which is less likely to cause radical side effects, although not risk free of course. I should say that I am 14 months post op, and it is possible to recover some level of vision for 2-3 years as collateral blood supply develops to compensate for whatever supply has been lost, IF that’s the problem. No one really knows exactly why I’ve lost the vision.
Having never had a bleed, you may want to challenge yourself on whether gamma knife might still be a better first option. It’s non invasive and recovery is quick. I did feel rough for a few weeks but it passed. The rest is about how you adapt to your situation and manage stress, which is important when you have an AVM. Stay hydrated, don’t drink too much, don’t smoke.
Sorry, another essay 
Do let me know if I can answer any other questions.
Best
Jonny