Greetings.
I’m a Michiganainian woman, 37.
I developed pulsatile tinnitus starting in October, 2024, and initially was told it was nothing (after a doctor listened to my neck with a stethoscope), and sent me on my way after maybe 5 minutes together. The tinnitus didn’t improve, and I went through a series of different tests and doctors last year leading up to my December 15 angiogram. I am now diagnosed with a level 1 AVM/AVF.
My AVM/AVF is towards the back of my head, close to my right ear (sorry, I forgot what lobe that is). I was told that the typical treatment for my situation, assuming the person is asymptomatic, is often to do nothing, just check on it regularly.
Unfortunatly, I am not asymptomatic. I have 24/7 whooshing heartbeat in my right ear. It makes it impossible to sleep. Falling asleep at night has been a nightmare for me since this started. I have to drown the sound of the heartbeat out with ambient sound to cope with the anxiety it causes. I can’t fall asleep when there’s noise in my environment. The heartbeat makes me anxious, covering the noise with other sound is overstimulating for sleep, regardless of whether I do ambient sound or not, sleep isn’t happening until I eventually pass out from exhaustion. I even have a separate bedroom from my husband because he snores loudly and I literally can’t sleep with him beside me, snoring away. Before anyone suggests earplugs, I’m prone to ear infections and impacted ear wax, they’re not an option for me as a baseline, and NOW they’d just amplify the pulsatile tinnitus whoosh. I’ve tried sleeping sitting up, as that makes the whoosh quieter than lying down, but that’s wrecking my neck and back.
Besides the constant whoosh, I also have severe headaches, and the muscles in my face tend to twitch, like over the bridge of my nose. Whether this is from the AVM itself or simply an effect of ongoing poor sleep isn’t really known.
I’ve opted for treatment. We’re doing embolization on April 9.
This isn’t my first go around with a significant health problem. Previously, I had to have a hysterectomy after prolonged menstrual bleeding (heavy and continuous for approximately a year and a half) that almost ended my life.
I’m unsure if I’m making the right choice this time around. With the hysterectomy. I WAS sure. Completely. I had one forward path- take the thing out, or eventually die from the blood loss and strain on my body, when every other intervention had failed to stop the bleeding. This time, however, technically, I could do nothing and not be at risk of imminent death. I may honestly be better off NOT doing it, in terms of the whole chances-of-death vs not-death. I don’t have the same certainty I had before. It isn’t do or die this time.
Things that contribute to my uncertainty about moving forward with embolization-
In October of last year, my stepmom passed away from epilepsy, age 59. My double-widower dad has been, understandably, devastated. I’m aware that embolization has risks, like infection, damage to other areas of the brain, stroke, developing epilepsy, and death. I have about a 5% chance of rupture currently. Dad wants me to do it, I’m worried about him in all of this. Especially without Mom #2 by his side to support him (and me). I don’t want to make a choice for me that then brings more devastation to his life, should things go wrong. What if I end up with epilepsy after? How will he sleep at night?
I also have EDS. My connective tissues are fragile. This raises the risks and odds of complications somewhat.
Additional factors to consider-
My mother died from a stroke when she was 43. She has 2 deceased sisters from unknown cardiac complications (one at 3 months, the other at 3 years), and another sister who lived to be an adult, who survived a stroke a couple of years ago. There was also a great grandmother on mom’s side who died from a stroke.
On my dad’s side of things, my Grandma had a stroke and survived, but was greatly disabled by it. Her mother (my great-grandmother), died from a stroke in the later years of her life. There have been other family who have had strokes as well. Every one of them had a brain hemorrhage, with the exception of my mother, who had a significant clot that cut off almost 100% of the blood-flow to her brain.
To close, I don’t know if I’m doing the right thing. I’m desperate for the pulsatile tinnitus to stop, which is my main driving force to go through with it, risks be damned, I’m losing my mind from exhaustion. The surgery team is really confident the embolization will stop the tinnitus AND that I’ll be alright after. But, as my own lived life experiences have taught me, again and again over the years, the worst can, does, will happen, and I have to proceed very cautiously and seriously. I put the date in April so I don’t feel rushed, and have time to change my mind and cancel, if needed.
Advice and personal experience stories are welcome.