I’m a 41-year-old male diagnosed with a large pelvic AVM (14 × 9 cm) and partaly spinal, with several aneurysmal dilatations up to about 5–6 cm. I was likely born with it…
Around the age of 25, I developed chronic lower back pain. At the time, doctors attributed it to disc herniation, nerve compression, hemorrhoids. Over the years, the pain sometimes became extremely severe, at its worst period, around age 30, the pain episodes were so intense that I occasionally couldn’t sleep for up to few days.That period was both mentally and phisically very difficult and dark. Then in coming years, the severe pain episodes gradually disappeared. Today, I still experience occasional lumbar pain and a feeling of constant 24/7 pressure in the abdominal wall and pelvis, but the symptoms are much milder and manageable.
After years of searching I was finally diagnosed with pelvic AVM at age 37. I’m still not sure whether I’m glad I discovered it or not, because the diagnosis brought a enormus amount of anxiety and stress, that is whole another topic. I went through all the cycles of existential crisis. I even turned completely gray over the following years which may or may not be related, but I choose to blame damn AVM ![]()
Despite everything, my body seems to have adapted remarkably well. I live a normal life, have a wonderful family, super caring and supportive wife and two children, nice job. Very few people around me even know about my condition. I go to the gym, and recently started running and I love it even though apparently it’s highly risky, but I’m in so much better place when I’m regulary excercising. I’m joyfull positive person, I’ve learned to live with this shit (excuse my French) and would honestly accept living with this level of symptoms for the rest of my hopefully long life.
I worry that invasive treatment could actually worsen my quality of life, because the AVM is extremely large and complex, it can jeopardize some other organs and god knows what else. Even specialists don’t fully agree on the best approach. Some recommend embolisation, while others believe that since I was born with it and my body has adapted, conservative management might be safer.
I would really appreciate hearing from anyone who has experience with large AVMs. How did your condition evolve over time? How did you approach decisions about intervention vs monitoring? How do you personally cope with the uncertainty that it can explode any second?